Sunday, 6 August 2017
However, we had (like you do) talked and dreamed about all the things we would do with the time once free of the demands of a 24/7 job. My ambitions were modest - make arty stuff during my frequent and regular periods of enforced resting - and go for the occasional happy outing with himself. He hasn't done any of the things on his list - like join a choir, bike over to the bird sanctuary, go for regular walks, maybe volunteer somewhere ... and I haven't been on his case because he needs time to adjust, right?
But it FEELS like he is always waiting for me to come up with a plan - and I have to be the one going "let's do this, let's go there". He never makes suggestions - 'shall we pop down the town for a coffee and people watch', or 'do you fancy a run out to' (insert name here). Nor does he "do his own thing" - see above, which leaves me feeling that I have to come up with ideas for outings or keep him company in case he is bored. I know retirement is a big adjustment, but .... well its proving a bit difficult.
So I made a page about it because that's what I do when I've got something nagging away at me. Started with orange paint and dropped water onto it (on purpose) when it was dry. Not quite the exciting effect I was hoping for - it works better on watercolour and this was acrylic.
But I do have one purely selfish request - which is the cry of many people whose partners have retired and are "under the feet". Please PLEASE beloved, could you find something that takes you out for just one evening a week so I can watch the TV programmes I like without you moaning? I've got endless episodes of One Born Every Minute and the whole of The Handmaid's Tale lined up just waiting for the day .....